The Mystery Man

The other day i was talking to a old crush of mine, it was really adorable how he could still give me the butterflies. I won't take names here. I would call him Mr. mystery man ;)
As cliched as it sounds. He is mysterious.
Unlike all my other blog posts, thrashing the socio-economic conditions of our country. This is a little different. So, Mr mystery man, i dedicate this short story to you :*

Mystery man has always been in my life. He was like this shadow. Invisible but still there. He has features like that of a Greek god ( Girls, stop drooling) he had eyes so deep, you will want to get lost in them. He has velvet soft voice that will make you weak on your knees. He is someone you would want to wake up to every morning. I always had a thing for mysterious men. And he was just the cherry on the cake. Unlike most ego driven men ( only referring to a part of the male gender), he is different. He has a world of his own, a world close to reality but still has some aspects that can only be dreamed. He has views that are so grounded, you'll be left in awe. By this time you'll know why he was my crush. The present relation i share with him is very complicated. Naming these kind of a sophisticated relation will not do justice to it. From what i decipher, going without talking with him for a day feels weird.
This one day he asked me, what should he do to keep that one special person in his life happy and safe?
Honestly when he asked me this i didn't have the answer i thought a lot, but it's nearly impossible to get to a conclusion. But i got something that should help. I told him:
'She probably is happy'
He was confused, i realized my answer was not to the point. He asked me
'How do i know if she's really happy?'
I knew what i had to say
'If she's happy and if you are the reason, you'll see it in her glittering eyes when she looks at you, the smile she has when she texts you, the stammered sentences she says when she meets you'
He was satisfied with the answer. I was too :)
He still had one last unanswered question. Somewhere between our conversations. I felt he thought i'm one hell of a philosopher and it made me crack into a laugh.
'I want to protect her, always, how do i do that?'
This was easy to answer, unlike the first question he asked.
'You cannot always be with her, there will be times when she has to and will face her problems head on, you have to be her strength and her guiding force, with the help of which she will glide through her problems'
He just smiled. I was particularly not sure how he took it. But i think he understood.
I tell you his is a smile to fall for. We still talk sometimes. He still gives me the butterflies :)

Fact or fiction? I'll leave it to your imaginations.

Dedicated to Mr. mystery man,

P.S: Short stories are not my thing, i'll be waiting for your comments and views. :)

Thank you!

Writing a book, a blog post or anything creative is not as easy as a walk in the park. I started my writing journey when i was only 14. Honestly i had no support back then, i was a mess. i had no idea what i was supposed to write or how i was supposed to start. But then with the help of a few people my life took a turn for the very best. But even then i had to face lot's of hardships in my life. Writers blocks being my biggest enemy. 

I had faced many hardships through out my journey, i kept writing, changing genres, editing my plot and deleting. I fell in love with my characters, i got so attached to them, editing or killing them became oh so difficult for me.

Yet, my friends and family have always been there for me, pushing me to my limits, assuring me of my qualities, continuously motivating me in my journey forward.
Without them it surely would not have been possible, here i take my time to thank all those who kept the fire in me burning, even though i thought i was going to fail again, they kept their faith alive. I'm grateful to my dedicated set of fans who always gave me positive feedback's and corrected me when i was wrong, without them this journey is incomplete.


You are what keeps me here each week. I look forward to many more years. 

Mistakes are not bad

Mistakes happen, they happen all they time. They will happen. It's an inevitable part of our life, we cannot avoid it, but we sure can learn something from it. I would quote Sir Einstein here 'Anyone who has never made any mistakes has never experienced anything new'. We are humans, humans are not perfect creations of god, we make mistakes, it's totally normal. We goof up. Some goof up's are really serious and some are not. But every goof up teaches us something or the other and makes us a even better person than yesterday.

Why Mistakes Feel Dangerous?

Mistakes often feel dangerous. Throughout human history, our errors have often been treated as dangerous for a variety of reasons:

• Our vulnerability. We have limited and fragile support systems. When those systems fail, people often lose their lives.
• Real dangers. Nature can be dangerous, and making mistakes can put us at the mercy of nature and its animal residents seeking a meal.
• Ignorance. Many cultures scapegoat someone whenever there is a failure of some kind. Scapegoating can be serious and deadly.
• Order. Many societies punish those who do not conform to the prevailing orthodoxy and treat difference and non-conformity as a mistake. Even our brains flash an error message whenever we go against prevailing social norms according to research published in the Spero Forum.

We have a history of handling mistakes and failure in an unpleasant way. Since each of us carries our human history with us, it can be a challenge to overcome the fear of making mistakes.

If we can embrace the reality of mistakes, we can free ourselves to be more creative in our lives and dig up some interesting insights.

Why You Cannot Avoid Making Mistakes?

Many people operate under the notion that making mistakes is an aberration, a mistake if you will. You can call it perfectionism but it is a more substantial problem. It is really a demand for order and continuity.

When we think we can eliminate mistakes, we are often working from a perspective that sees the world as a fixed place.

The world, however, is not so obliging. Like it or not, the world, and everything in it, is constantly changing. Change is more constant and pervasive than we can see with our own eyes which is why we often miss it. Our bodies are constantly changing. The natural conditions of the earth change constantly as well. Everything, including economic and cultural systems have life cycles. Everything is in a constant state of flux.

We cannot see all of the changes going on around us since rates of change vary. Unfortunately, when we try to create a feeling of certainty and solidity in our lives or operate from the illusion of stability and order, we are fighting reality and our natural evolution which is built on adapting to change.

It is better to continually bend into this reality rather than fight every change we experience. Fighting it can cause us to make more mistakes. Finding the benefits in change can be useful and help us minimize unnecessary mistakes.

Mistakes are part of the trial and error, experimental nature of life. The more you adopt the experimental, evolutionary frame, the easier it becomes to handle mistakes.

Handling mistakes well can help you relax and enjoy all aspects of life more.

So, go on make lots of mistakes. Learn from them, cause later in life you will know that those were the mistakes that made you the person you are today.

Tell me about your goof up's in the comment section below :)
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The Foodie Blog

We all have in some walk of our life, met this person who has nothing to do with all the other things in life except food. You can find this person at a restaurant or a cafe with a hamburger or a packet of chips in hand. This persons favourite topic is food and he/ she is the only person who can give you all the important details of the hot spots to dine in. That being said, they are also the best people in this world.  

A foodie always seeks out new food experience as a hobby rather than simply eating out of convenience or hunger.  But again, these pure at heart, food loving folks always have to face criticisms well because they simply eat too much :(
But little do people know that being a foodie is actually a good thing. :)

I mean girls, we've all heard that they way to a man's heart is through his stomach, and if you have a foodie partner to spend the rest of your life with, then boy, you are pretty lucky.

But you are not born a foodie, being a foodie is a choice. A foodie is not your average diner. A foodie has high standards, like really high. You want to serve them simple french fries the fries have to be perfect. They don't compromise anything for food. Food is life for them. So if you want your restaurant to be rated good, give a foodie his/her best meal. 

An example of a great meal to a foodie

A foodies worst nightmare

It's true that not everything that a foodie eats has to be expensive, but it is true that one cannot become a true foodie without knowing what is good, and that what is good comes from experience and experience requires money. One may save up from a long time, to dine in that wonderful restaurant, but for a real foodie it is more of a lifestyle than a one-time thing.

A foodie does not care if you think it's a waste of time and money, a foodie eats for fun, for satisfaction. for the experience, that makes them so different from the rest of the general diners. Yes, they are truly the greatest people in this world. I mean who does not love food? 

Criticising us for what we are and what we are passionate about won't help, we constitute of the 60% of critiques giving your restaurant  5 stars every time we visit. So the next time you meet a foodie, let them take you to their beautiful world of food's. Experience it, there's nothing better.

My heartfelt thank you to my foodie friend +Snehashis Sarkar, who actually requested me to blog about it. :)

Complete analysis of Vogue Empower's #MYCHOICE video

We all have different notions about feminism. Some think it's giving the females more importance than the male in the society. Some think it's about equal right and then there are some who think they can do any shit in the name of feminism and women empowerment.

It all started with the viral video on you tube about women empowerment by vogue empowerment. Starring Deepika Padukone and other nameless 99 women explaining why the things they do are their choice.

Homi adanjania had a almost clear understanding of the whole feminist culture. But there were still some loopholes in it.

It was perfect till the first 48 seconds of the 2 Min's 34 seconds video, but all hell broke loose from 49th second till the 56th second. Within those 7 seconds, the narrator, here deepika said 'It's my choice if i want to have sex inside a marriage, outside a marriage, or to not have sex at all' but little did they know that the one line they said would turn out to be the biggest controversy in the feminist world. Maybe they didn't know the fact that some of the female of India can't distinguish or are somehow not being able to distinguish between rational and irrational choices.

Followed by the video, few women whom i consider are not happy in their present marriage decided to go gaga on their husbands by showing them their rational choice, by having sex outside marriage. I have only one thing to say ladies 'There is the law if you are not happy with your husband. there is a thing called divorce which you can apply for, and if you think applying for a divorce will give you a bad name, tell them it's your choice'. Now if you allow a simple video meant for recreational purposes to get over your rational thinking there's nothing much we can do. Where does your choice go when your husband abuses you? you get so scared of the society you shut up totally. Use your choices judiciously where needed.

In another video 'My choice- male version' gives out a very strong message. If you decide you have sex outside marriage or not have sex at all it's your choice. But when the same thing is done by a male it becomes a matter of cheating, disrespecting your love and shit. It's rational when you do it but irrational when men do it? 

If you talk about women empowerment, you have to talk about empowering the women but not at the cost of giving the male a inferiority complex. It's about growing, but growing together. It's about making choice's that don't hurt others around you especially your partner. It's about helping each other rise. 

Feminism believes solely on equality of both the sexes, it does not in any way say that you have to give women more importance so that a women can outrun a man. No.

In my opinion, this videos scripting should have been more sensible and the director should have been vary about the possible reactions of women and should have understood the fact that, no offence but some of the Indians are still prudent about this kind of topics, and misunderstanding are sure to arise.

the video was meaningful, not all of it, but yes some parts were pretty nerve wracking. I would suggest if you are going to follow the video blindly and for every illogical reason you take give the reason that it is your choice i would say, you go through the other side of the coin as well.

(I meant no offence through my blog, it was purely my general opinion)

Women version https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KtPv7IEhWRA

Male version https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhjO!nXGXpHo

Happy blogging!

Thank you +Subhajit Paul  for having faith in me, would not be possible without your support

Its not us, its you!

Shockingly in India alone rape is the 4th common crime.The most horrible reason that men give for their perverted behavior is the clothes we wear and the type of friends and the places we go to.
We were the clothes we want to wear that does not give you the right to judge us.  The worst part of it all is the justification of such treatment by calling girl's bodies distracting, improper or unprofessional. There should never be any encouragement or approval to public humiliation of women just by the way they look.
 “Your body is a distraction, a problem, and something to be hidden and ashamed of. You are responsible for how other people respond to your body.” These ideas are used to justify the humiliation of women, whether through a dress code or public media.
Even worse, many young girls are being told that their humiliation is necessary so as to not distract boys. This disproportionate emphasis on male ability and success, while women are reduced to nothing more than objects to either distract or be overlooked, spells out a very clear message for girls, whether intended or not: Your ability, your talents, your education and your success are secondary to your ability to satisfy the males around you. 

More shocking was this article that i came along.

‘Gagging for it’: It’s not rape if victim is drunk, claims top barrister

“Consent is consent, blind drunk or otherwise, and regret after the event cannot make it rape. I have a simple solution,” he wrote.

“If the complainant (I do not refer to her as the victim) was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or both, when she was ‘raped,’ this provides the accused with a complete defense. End of story and a victory for fairness, moderation and common sense!”

“My considerable experience tells me that there are basically two defenses to an allegation of rape: either ‘it wasn't me guv,’ or ‘she was gagging for it.’”

Interviewed over the weekend, Osborne said if women who “trollop around with their t*ts out” decided to “cover up” there would be fewer cases of rape, and many rape cases were caused by women who“send out certain signals,” causing men to think “she looks like a goer.”

The lawyer further told the Daily Mail he thought the “government and prosecution service are going too far the other way.”

“It does happen where the girl says she’s up for it – she wants a quickie – and then it is unpleasant and torrid and terrible. There are no violins playing, it’s round the back of the community center. The next morning she wakes up and feels ashamed. It’s very easy for her to convince herself that she did not actually consent,” he added.

But the point here is, if a girl is blonde, wearing short dresses and walk's on high heel's it's because she chose to. She wanted to. She has no intention of provoking you. It's your mentality.
Women being seen nothing but mere toy's for sexual pleasure a change of mentality is utmost needed. You have to keep your testosterone under control and understand that 'When a girl say's No!, she mean's it'.

This is a global cultural phenomenon. he media need to stop displaying women as objects and start focusing on their accomplishments and skills. Young girls must stop being taught that their bodies are a problem or that they must self-police their appearances in order to be taken seriously. It is only with these changes that women will finally be portrayed and recognized for their skills and that young girls will be able to overcome the crippling belief that their value is only in their looks.

Be a man, not societies puppet. #fightagainstrape 

Join the movement @ http://www.fightagainstrape.com/

Everything you ought to know about high heels

They hurt, but still we love flaunting them, they break and sprain our ankle's but yet we always chose them. Your wildest fantasy involves a girl wearing heel's. It portrays confidence and importance. It is an integral part of every girl's life. Here's a peep into the world of high heel's and how to flaunt them with grace and safety. like they say “Before you criticize a woman, try walking in her high heels.” 

What are high heel's?

High heels are a type of footwear that raises the heel of the wearer much higher than the level of their toes. It tends to give that aesthetic illusion of long and slender legs to the wearer. They are mainly found in Stiletto, pump, wedge,block, tapered and blade.

Every girl's best fantasy:

Every girl ought to have this in their wardrobe, sleek and slender. Girl, if you can flaunt this out with confidence there's no stopping you.

 

We all remember the first memory of our favorite high heel's but there's one thing common in all of them. The red stiletto. Admit it you have found yourself occasionally gazing around a shoe store, looking for that red heel. Those lucky enough to own one, know just how lucky they are.

I can't only say good things about heel's as much as i hate to it's important to know, that falling off a 12 cm platform is not a pretty sight. Trust me, you don't want to wear it if you can't handle it.

You would agree that the stilettos have come a long way, i mean it initially looked that way and now. But it still does not fail to surprise us all the more.

  

Professional chick? Girl, I've got you covered. a short pencil skirt with white shirt and this. You are surely going to turn head's when you walk around the office. Lot's of heads.

For those who cannot for different reason's flaunt a 12 cm heel. Girl, for you we have Wedges:

Pretty, comfortable and safe. it's not that classy as the classic stilettos. But it won't surely make you fall and you'll have a great time walking tall.

And unlike the ordinary heel's you won't have a hard time fixing your bruised toes and your feet can breadth. (yes, feet's breadth)

Then again if you are more close to the feminist side. I have you covered.

Pair this up with a white and pink floral summer dress and your good to go.

Party much? But afraid to dance in high heel's? 

Go on dance your heart out, you'll be the life of the party, er. your shoe's would be.

Are you one of those girl who still have a streak of tomboyish nature left? I have just the shoe you need. High heel's are not everybody's cup of tea. But that does not stop you from flaunting cute shoes. Sneakers's and moccasin's to the rescue...

super cute, comfy and trending. Sneakers. They are most girl's favorite. Floral prints, block print's. they come in all types of color.
You can sport it with absolutely anything and everything.




That's all. Follow on for my next blog about the dresses you can flaunt with these :)
happy blogging.    

Men's Fashion

It's summer!

With the sun gazing at us like it's going to gallop us whole with it's strong skin burning ray's. It's hard to keep up with a perfect, yet stylish look. I mean it's nothing new, you get out dressed to impress and by the time you are out in the sun you look like you just had a sun stroke. Your skin become's sweaty and carrying off your favorite hairstyle becomes oh so difficult, but no worries. I have here some way's how you can dress for summer's, men pay close attention if you want to beat the hot heat. the hot way.

Wear clothe's that will keep you cool and stylish:

it's no secret that clothe's make a man look stylish. But this is actually where 60% of the male go wrong. Selecting the right clothes. Men, you need to dress keeping in mind the atmospheric conditions as well. 

Dressing Right( Torso) :

1. Casual Occasion:

Men you can never go wrong with this. A crisp cotton buttoned up causal white shirt is a must in your wardrobe.  May it be a formal interview or a date with your favorite girl, it work's wonder's. Classy yet, comfortable. 

But then if you are not in the mood to look oh so formal, cotton tee's are great! Make sure about the fabric you chose. The fabric should be one where your skin can and will breadth. if you want to avoid the sun tan, go for full sleeved tee but then again be vary of the fabric you choose. Also avoid black tee's they catch the sun's heat better, white or light colors work wonders.

2. Formal Occasions:

Printed shirts are a must if you are in for a formal business meeting or a formal event. you can just never go wrong in this. It will show your professional as well as playful side at once. You can also opt for: 

Checks, floral or stripes.

So your best friend is getting married. You have to look your best then, given the fact you are the bride's or groom's best friend. You have to remember you cannot be too formal or too casual in such occasions. It would be best if you just wore a nice shirt with a bow or tie and a nice vest coat or jacket. Voila! you're done.

Dressing Right (bottoms):

Now that you have your torso right, it's time to pay attention to your lower portions as well. 

 1. Casual occasions:

Comfy yet cool. You can pair this with absolutely anything and everything, or you can go semi nude. But i would not suggest you wear this to your first date :D

There are many colors and variations available but i feel nude's are the best.

2. Formal Occasions:

You have to have at least two pair of slim, classic, straight and relaxed pants. They are great if you are a office goer, if your going for a important meeting or just your friends marriage. It works every single time.

1.Slim pants:

These pants have a straight leg and sit's slightly below the waist. 

2.classic pants:

These pants sit comfortable on your waist and have a tapered end.

4.Straight Pants:

same as Slim pants

5. Relaxed pants:

Sits at the waist and have a slightly wider leg opening.

So, now you know how to dress for occasions. Let's get down to hair and accessories. Also as a bonus i'll give you two look's that you can flaunt with ease :)

Hair Styles:

Hair is one of the important=nt assets of any man. But do you know how to flaunt it right?

1. Casual:

Nothing woo's us girls more than back brushed hair. It's sexy and we love running our finger's through me. Get this look if your going for a date or just a casual outing with the peep's:

                                                                   Effortless and sexy!

2. Formal:

 

For formal occasions nothing work's better than a short and simple hairdo. Don't over do. It makes you look sophisticated , sexy and responsible. Ready to bag that new promotion already? 

Now, you know about the hair styles as well. you can always experiment with style's though. 

Shoes And Accessories:

Shoes and accessories are the additions to your perfect look. 

1. Casual shoes:

you can experiment with casual's there's no hard and fast rule here.

Boat Shoe's are the perfect match for every casual occasion. They look good and can be worn with anything.

2. Formal:

It's no secret formal shoes are perfect for formal occasions. Well polished shoes heighten's your confidence and makes you look good.

Accessories: 

1. Glasses:

Causal or formal, you cannot go wrong with a nice pair of spectacles. Mama mia.

But then it's summer so how can we forget the Sunglasses? :D

As promised, here are the looks:

That's it hope you liked it :)